Hello everyone, today I am going to talk about marriage. Not in the way that you would expect or even like. But, one that will bring truth to our lives, and truth will help us live a life that is well pleasing to God. And, by the way, is that not what we are here for, to please God?
For one thing, statistics show us that around 75% to 80% of all divorces are initiated by women in the United States. Now, this does not mean that 75-80% of women are more sinful than common man; it just means that they are the ones that “pull the plug” first. I will demonstrate why…
Learning a little from my blogs or books you will see that marriages were designed to be unilateral, not bilateral. Paul knew this. But, if you noticed in Paul’s writing (1 Cor. 7) he was not interested in bringing “bride prices” back or even enforcing unilateral marriages again, but to teach us how to live a life that is well pleasing to God regardless how we got there. That is, one of sacrificial living and not of selfishness, unforgiveness or hardness of heart.
Paul starts off telling us the commandment of our Lord in 1 Cor. 7:10-11 to remind us that He said we must not divorce one another! But, in 1 Cor. 7:12-16 you will get more of a universal feel. Paul preaches equal compassion and concern for our lost spouses and to live according to grace in the Spirit. I do not want you to be deceived though, Paul was very clear to the Gentile women living in Corinth that if you divorce your husband you must not remarry another man (vs. 11) because only the man was given permission by Scripture to divorce his wife (Deut. 24:1, Matt. 19:9).
Paul was not commanding the Gentile believers that they must now practice Judaism or the Law of Moses but that our obedience to Christ means that wives obey their husband and husbands love their wife in everything we do. Therefore; since the women were made for man, they must be submissive to him regardless of the type of marriage they are in (either Gentile or Jewish). The woman must not initiate a divorce to rebel against this authority (vs. 10). After all, isn’t this what the law also says? (1 Cor. 14:34, Gen. 3:16)
In contract law, a woman was correct; in a Greco-Roman bilateral contract she would have every right to divorce her husband fairly. But, to the contrary, God did not approve in bilateral, equal authoritative marriages (Gen. 3:16). Therefore, all divorces are to be unilaterally initiated only by the husband in accordance to the Law of Moses (Deut. 24:1) regardless if you are Jew or Gentile. Today, women have a power that they were never designed or biblically allowed to have according to Scripture.
Looking back… Men in the Old Testament did not always initiate a divorce with their wife when they were not happy but many times they would simply marry another woman (i.e. Esther). Women, on the other hand, could not divorce or marry in polyandry, according to the Law, so they would eventually leave the husband (Jer. 3:8-9, Judges 19:1-).
We see this played out in marriages today.
The men, rather than jumping into a divorce, would go back to their natural urges and simply look for another woman to lust after. For, isn’t it far easier for a man to have two women at the same time (polygamy) then it is for a woman (polyandry) who has children? Women, however, are more naturally inclined to leave their husband when displeased with his leadership. Scripture says we can’t have two Masters for we will end up loving one but hating the other. And so with a woman. In a polyandrous relationship she would end up loving one man and hating the other. Men do not have these issues.
I am not saying that it does not happen the other way around, but due to scriptural examples, this would seem to be their first initial action towards sin. A man is concerned in having sex with another woman, and a woman is more concerned in getting out of her neglectful/abusive relationship. A sinful man usually tends to use his greater strength and size as intimidation/fear tactics in an argument, or try and disrespect her by ignoring her complaints all together. These are usually his “go-to’s” in a fight with his wife genetically.
Paul suggests that women are more easily deceived than man, “For Adam was not deceived but the woman being deceived fell into transgression.” If given the chance a woman will seek a divorce as a means to ultimately escape her relationship being deceived by the world into thinking this is permissible to God. For the world’s wisdom screams, “God would want you happy, right?” Hopefully, I have shown that to you in today’s writing to help couples in pain.
Paul said a woman is not to separate from her husband and a husband is not to divorce (put away) his wife. This was God’s design for marriage from the very beginning for [divorce] was not originally an option for him (Matt. 19:6).
In all things, God be gloried.
In Jesus name, amen.