My greatest surprise to this study has been “submission”. The traditional bride price transferred the authority of a woman living under her father’s roof to her new husband (Numbers 30:16). However, in our Western world we have two young adults under no authority but their own, coming from two separate apartments and marrying in a bilateral marriage. This means there is no foundation of authority to their marriage other than the different roles and responsibilities governed by either societal pressures or religious jargon.
Why would an unbelieving, independent woman submit herself in the twenty-first century? Logically she would not. That is what makes marriages so confusing for believers. When comparing ourselves with the rest of the world, we feel out of touch with reality in our expectations, and find ourselves more in-line with conformity. Meaning, western style marriages are adopting a complementarian or egalitarian lifestyle (woman no longer seen as barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen as the normative) rather than the patriarchal marriage as seen in the Old Testament scriptures.
“…egalitarianism which maintains positions of authority and responsibility in marriage, religion, business, and elsewhere should be equally available to females as well as males, and ‘male chauvinism‘, a generalized bias that in most situations men are of significantly greater value than women.”
Complementarianism. (2018, January 20). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 05:07, February 7, 2018, from https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Complementarianism&oldid=821498360